It is important to understand the PSV Union club philosophy.

You will not find more competitive athletes than our own coaches so we all want to win but not at any cost.

PSV Union follows the example that the rest of the football world sets; the score of a game is not kept for games played between English Premier League youth teams. Liverpool F.C, Arsenal, Chelsea & Manchester United. Example- Liverpool FC boys beat Man United 5 times in one season at the U10 level but you won’t find that recorded anywhere. This is not to take away from the importance of the match- the boys knew the significance and knew the score. Why not record the score? So that coaches didnt sacrifice the development of any one player over another and seek a victory for themselves/their own resume which is so often the case in youth football. The biggest clubs in the world Liverpool F.C, Arsenal, Ajax, Barcelona etc, don't care about the team results until U18 and even then they arent concerned because they are concerned with developing players who will move to the next level- the first team. This philosophy has been supported by all of the major soccer authorities in the world...e.g River Plate (Argentina) pick the football players (usually smaller ones) and not the athletes-

Our highly experienced coaches were top players in their own right- They know what they are doing - trust them! The short and long term results vs. development are always being considered and we always try at Union FC to consider the individual player development and the development of each team but we never comprimise the integrity of the game and how it should be played- technique, speed (of thought/recognition, technical speed, change of speed/decelleration & acceleration), tempo & rhythm and tactical understanding and appreciation are all important facets of the game:

'in the end its excellence that counts- not succes- Success can be a result of luck and often short-lived, while excellence is longer lasting and built on the solid foundation of quality'.

We all recognize that soccer is a very passionate game- for players, coaches and fans. But when it comes to youth soccer, the soccer pitch can bring out some of the worst instincts that we have. We all want our sons and daughters to play, to play with everything they have, to play well, and have fun. We want them to be well coached, play on a team that is competitive and benefit in a host of ways from being involved in competitive athletics. Yet we, as parents and guradians sometimes undercut how much fun our kids have, and how much they will actually benefit. This happens by and through our behavior, especially during games.

So here is a primer, a reminder, of little things that we can do on the sidelines this season to make this soccer season more pleasant for all concerned - most importantly, for the kids.

Things to keep in mind while watching from the sidelines:

1. Let the coaches' coach. If you are telling your son or daughter - or any other player for that matter - to do something different from what their coach is telling them, you create distraction and confusion. Even if you feel that its the right instruction! Give them encouragement, not advice.
   
   
2. It is very unnerving for many young players to try and perform difficult tasks on the field on the spur of the moment when parents are yelling at them from the sidelines- this is especially so when they are attacking- at Union we require some constants when defending, however, we look for creativity and personality when attacking- leave the players to their own devises- asking them to shoot, off balance, facing the wrong way from 35 yards when a professional could and never would try is not something we encourage! . Let the kids play. If they have been well coached, they should know what to do on the field. If they make a mistake, chances are they will learn from it.
   
   
3. Do not discuss the play of specific young players in front of other parents. How many times do you hear comments such as, "I don't know how that boy made this team.." or "she's just not fast enough.". Too many parents act as though their child is a 'star', and the problem is someone else's kid. Negative comments and attitudes are hurtful and totally unnecessary and kill parent harmony, which is often essential to youth team success.
   
   
4. Discourage such toxic behavior by listening patiently to any negative comments that might be made, then address issues in a positive way. Speak to the positive qualities of a player, family or coach.
   
   
5. Do your best not to complain about your son or daughter's coaches to other parents. Once that starts, it is like a disease that spreads. Before you know it, parents are talking constantly in a negative way behind a coach's back. (As an aside, if you have what you truly feel is a legitimate concern with your child's coach, the program or philosophy - either regarding game strategy or playing time, arrange an appointment to meet privately, away from a soccer field)
   
   
6. Make positive comments from the sideline. Be encouraging. Young athletes do not need to be reminded constantly about their perceived errors or mistakes. Their coaches will instruct them, either during the game or at half-time, and during practices. You can often see a young player make that extra effort when they hear encouraging words from the sideline about their effort and their creative play, a tackle or perhaps a great run to create space, for example.
   
   
7. Avoid making any negative comments about players on the other team. This should be simple: we are talking about youngsters, not adults who are being paid to play professionally. I recall being at a game some years ago, when parent on one team loudly made comments about errors made by a particular young player on the other team. People on the other side of the field were stunned- and angry. Besides being tasteless and classless, these kinds of comments can be hurtful to the young person involved and to their family as well.
   
   
8. Try to keep interaction with parents on the other team as healthy and positive as possible. Who's kidding whom? You want your child's team to win. So do they. But that should not make us take leave of our senses, especially our common sense. Be courteous 'till it hurts; avoid the 'tit for tat' syndrome.
   
   
9. Parents on the 'other' team are not the enemy. Neither are the boys or girls on the other team. We should work to check any negative feelings at the door before we hit the pitch.
   
   
10. What is the easiest thing to do in the youth sports world? Criticize the referees. Oh, there are times when calls are missed, absolutely. And that can, unfortunately, directly affect the outcome of a contest. That said, by and large those who officiate at youth soccer games are hardly over-compensated, and give it an honest - and often quite competent - effort. At worst, they at least try to be fair and objective
    
    
11. On that note, outbursts from parents on the sideline made toward the referees only signal to our on children on the field that they can blame the refs for anything that goes wrong. Blaming others is not a formula for success in sports
    
    
12. Yelling out comments such as "Good call, ref" or "Thanks ref" may only serve to alienate an official which may sway future calls against our own team (subconsciously that is!). The ref assumes they made the proper call, that's why they made it. Trying to show superficial support because the call went 'your' way is simply annoying to the officials, and to anyone within earshot.
    
    
13. Walking up and down all game long along the sidelines, following the play, is unnerving to players and unnecessary- particularly so if you are trying to yell out instructions to various players, including your own son or daughter. It is likely embarrassing to the player/players involved and simply counterproductive.
    
    
14. We all feel things and are apt to be tempted to say things in the 'heat of the moment'. But we don't excuse athletes for doing inappropriate things in the 'heat of the moment' (there are penalties, suspensions, etc.) so we should apply similar standards to our own sideline behavior. Quickly check yourself and ask: Will I be proud of what I am about to say or do when I reflect on it tomorrow?
    
    
15. The field or car park is not the time to 'fan the flames'. Whether it is a coach's decision, a referee's call, a comment that was made, let it go. Don't harass the coach, or an official, or a parent on the other team after the game is over. Go home, relax, and unwind. Talk positively with your child. The ride home is sometimes as important as the game itself. Make that time a good memory for your son or daughter by discussing as many positives as you can about him/her, her coach, her teammates, etc. (if you wish to speak to a coach make an appointment to do so via email- right before or after practice when the coach is either busy with on field activities is not the best time to meet). Do ot come to the field expecting the coach to spend time with you discussing an issue that can wait. Coaches are planning their sessions and are simply not allowed by the club to conduct impromptu meetings.